Dealing with the death of someone close to you is no easy task. There is no definitive list of things to do to help ease the pain; each person is different and will cope with their grief according to what fits them best. However, here are some more general pointers to help you develop a more positive outlook.
- Cherish the memories that you shared together – this person had an impact in your life and would want you to remember the good times.
- Look after yourself and take time to grieve. Go for walks; read your favourite books; take up a new hobby, like painting! Try anything positive which will get you to focus your mind on other things.
- Reach out to the people you love – spend time with friends and family, discuss the feelings you have about your loss with them and allow them to support you.
- Remember that time helps heal all wounds. – Grief is always hard at first, but we all go through it at some time in life and, whilst we never forget the people we love, it is good to look to the future.
- Speak to a counsellor if you feel you need outside support – they are there to listen to you!
- Don’t shut others out – let those around you help you cope with your loss.
- Don’t take up negative habits – drinking and smoking more will not solve any issues.
- Don’t kick yourself if you still feel upset a while after it happened – remember that grief cannot just be fixed in a night!
The death of a loved one is always going to be distressing. However, you must always remember how much they would want to see you enjoying life and doing the things that make you happy.