Everyone has the right to marry and to found a family. Marriage is a very special bond between two people. Marriage unites a man and a woman who want to spend their lives together. They share their sorrows and their happiness. A husband and wife are close to each other physically and emotionally. A married couple is like a team.
Just like food and water are equally important to live, the commitment of a husband and wife are equally important for a healthy marriage. Nobody is superior to the other. There must always be equality in a marriage.
COMMUNICATION IS KEY IN A HEALTHY MARRIAGE
Communication is a very important part of a healthy marriage. The husband and wife must talk to each other and discuss their feelings. This should make decisions together. Men and Women both have the same rights in a marriage: Gender does not make someone superior to the other.
THE IMPORTANCE OF TRUST AND RESPECT
Marriage is a relationship that is based on trust and respect. When you trust someone you know that they will not hurt you. Respect means treating a person well. You should not treat anyone the way you don’t want to be treated yourself. If you love someone you will respect their wishes and desires.
MARRIAGE IS ALSO ABOUT RESPECTING EACH OTHER PHYSICALLY
A person’s feelings must be equally respected when it comes to sex. Just because two people are married does not mean that the wife will always want to have sex with her husband. Choice is a very important right of a person. It means that I am allowed to be and feel whatever I want. Choice is also important when it comes to sex. Everyone has a freedom to choose. Choice means that I should be able to engage in sexual intercourse with my husband or wife without any pressure, and that I don’t have to have sex if I don’t want to.
SEX SHOULD NEVER HAPPEN WITHOUT A CLEAR AGREEMENT
Husband and wife must agree to have sex. This must be a clear agreement, a clear “yes” to sex. If a woman does not say anything, it does not mean that she is saying “yes”. A husband should not pressure his wife to have sex and it is not a wife’s duty to have sex with her husband.
Sex without consent is not acceptable and leads to a lot of emotional unrest for a woman. A woman is not the property of her husband. She is an equal partner and her choice matters. There are many ways in which a marriage can happen, but the right to say no is a right that always prevails.
A MARRIAGE IS ABOUT TWO EQUALS SUPPORTING EACH OTHER
Some cultures believe that a man who asserts himself physically on his wife is more masculine. This is not true. A true and honorable man will respect the wishes of his wife. He will love and support her.
Just like a team does not work well if one player is bossy and ignores the wishes of the other team member, a marriage does not work well if the husband is bossy. When there is consent in a relationship, both husband and wife will be happy and they will create a happy and successful life and family.