Introduction:

Marriage is a sacred commitment. It brings together two different individuals who are supposed to share a common vision of life. However, it is observed that young people increasingly disagree on important issues and focus more on feelings. What are the family taboos that young lovers avoid addressing? These include infidelity, financial matters, and the risks of domestic violence.

Infidelity in the Couple:

In recent years, divorce has become a common phenomenon. In 2012, 198 divorce cases were filed in Burkina Faso courts. Among the reasons cited, infidelity occupies a significant place. Before marriage, one of the parties often witnesses the other’s misconduct but prefers to ignore it; the deceived person hoping to change their partner later. Unfortunately, the outcome is different, and in marriage, the betrayals continue. At the beginning of the relationship, no one raises issues of infidelity, and when it occurs, it becomes a difficult problem to solve. In addition to infidelities, violence is sometimes common in the couple.

Domestic Violence:

In Burkina Faso, domestic violence is the second leading cause of divorce. It should be noted that violence can be physical, psychological, and financial. One cannot imagine being a victim of violence from their spouse at the moment they say “yes.” It usually starts with insults, offensive remarks, sexual deprivation, and then the first blows occur. Couples find it difficult to overcome domestic violence. Some battered individuals lose their lives under the blows of their attackers or choose suicide when their suffering becomes too overwhelming. In the flames of love, young people also avoid questions about money.

Financial Question:

Money is a taboo subject in some couples. Indeed, people in love often decide to marry without discussing financial aspects. The man is generally the main provider in the household. He takes care of most if not all family expenses. This situation is sometimes difficult for women who have to rely entirely on their husbands for even the slightest expense, especially when they do not hesitate to use it as a lever of domination. The financial question is also a frequent source of family tension even when both spouses have incomes. However, money should not be a prohibited subject between two people who have decided to stay together until death.

Conclusion:

Today, families break up over subjects they consider taboo. Indeed, the fear of losing the other before marriage leads people to hide truths and suppress their frustrations. They avoid discussions on topics such as infidelity, domestic violence, and financial matters. Ideally, everyone should be transparent in their intentions to avoid divorce.