INTRODUCTION

The family is the most basic unit. In Africa, the respect accorded to a person is often linked to their ability to start a family. For both men and women, choosing a future spouse is crucial because both will have the responsibility of raising their children and honouring those who have believed in them. However, after marriage, some women are left to fend for themselves and find themselves playing the roles of both parents. They must deal with the expectations of the in-laws, the spouse’s behavioural deviations, and societal rejection.

Life in the In-Laws’ Home

Increasingly, discussions related to the in-laws are recurrent. Indeed, some young men stay in the family home after marriage. This situation often leads to constant conflicts in the household because living with the in-laws can sometimes be difficult for the young bride. For example, she may be subjected to verbal or even physical violence but simply endures the hardships of this living environment. She strives to be the perfect daughter-in-law by supporting the members of her in-laws’ family while maintaining a respectful attitude towards them and her husband. She thus finds herself limited in her actions because she is not in her own home.

Substitute for the Spouse

In patriarchal systems, the man is responsible for all major decisions in the family. Indeed, he chooses the place of residence, the children’s schools and universities, and he has financial power. He is the quintessential head of the family. However, it is often the woman who bears all the consequences of his poor decisions. For example, in case of adultery or excessive spending, she ends up bearing the financial burden of the family. This situation can sometimes leave the woman in a delicate position, where she struggles to meet the family’s needs despite her efforts. In general, they do not work, and the salary of those who are employed does not cover all the family’s needs. Thus, the woman becomes a pillar on which the entire family relies.

Societal Rejection

Expectations towards women in African societies are often very high. Indeed, they are expected to be better mothers and accomplished wives in all aspects of their lives. Women are seen as emotional, and people think they easily express their feelings. Unfortunately, when they encounter difficulties, they do not always receive the necessary support from society or their surroundings. Divorced women, widows, or single mothers often find themselves alone, facing daunting challenges.

CONCLUSION

Each individual has a specific role to play within society, whether as a man, woman, or child. However, within a family, some do not assume their responsibility and do not play their roles. Sadly, the woman ends up being the pillar and assuming the role of head of the family.